How teenage access to pornography is killing intimacy in sex – Times Online

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This is so devastatingly sad. We have GOT to have more conversations about this in a way that isn’t just about “it makes Jesus sad”. There are valid and important reasons to limit if not eliminate porn from our social visual “vocabulary” and more discussion needs to happen especially amongst those who aren’t religious. I think for too long, the “religious right/traditional family values” crowd have been the dominating voice in regard to pornography but not because others aren’t concerned. The dialog needs to take on other voices in order to reach the hearts of our young.

4 thoughts on “How teenage access to pornography is killing intimacy in sex – Times Online

  1. I agree Mak. This conversation gets so bogged down in accusations of Puritanism or prudishness that anyone attempting to critique it feels immediately shamed by being so hopelessly out of the loop and archaic. Our young ones have GOT to have us create a space to discuss issues of sexuality, intimacy and relational meaning, or they will have no idea how to approach this dizzying, oversexed culture. It’s not prudish to worry about this- it’s wise. And as people of faith, it’s absolutely necessary.

  2. Can I just say that it’s not just the actual pornography that’s a problem? Although that it is … but most evenings I don’t even want to watch television with my teenagers because of all the advice for aging and sex that’s on. Our whole culture has become hyper-focused on sex. I understand that aging and sex is an issue, but it does not need to come into my livingroom in the evening. Although it’s become a joke in our house … last night my 16 yo commented, “I think the KY people have the same advertising agency as the car companies,” laughed and put it as her FB status. That gave us a platform for conversation. But honestly … That said, the article was horrifying. I noticed two things. I found it ironic that an article in which the main point was how pornography was decreasing the intimacy of sex was so sterile and dry (not intimate). Second, I found it horrifying that girls are basically mutilating themselves with the help of doctors in order to live up to airbrushed images on a screen. Dear god … that’s really very close to female circumcision isn’t it?

  3. I know, it’s all so infuriating Sonja.I was talking with David a while back saying that part of the problem is that the alternative is complete secrecy and abstinence, mystique and shame that gives the sex act too much power. I wonder what would happen if our kids were exposed to moderate and realistic images of the human form and as a society (esp. in media), dating, sex, ect was portrayed realistically instead of idealizing it or fantasizing and fetishizing it. I recently did breast art painting for a fundraiser and my friends house was filled with women of all shapes and sizes, some lean and muscular, some soft and squishy, bellies with stretch marks and “muffin tops”. bellies with defined musculature – all women with fun and fantastic personalities. I wonder what my girls would think if the airbrushed images they saw were few and far between – sterile and absurd when contrasted with a room full of women like that.Maybe that’s not the right “solution” but it does make me wonder.also, I totally agree about the comment that it’s not just porn – the dating crap my girls hear on kids tv is almost as repugnant.

  4. O M G do NOT even get me started about those *&^*&%*&%#(*^(*& kids shows. They are from SATAN!!! Okay … I might be off the deep end … just a teensy bit đŸ˜‰ But the ideas they give kids about relationships between anyone are sheer mountains of bullshit … never mind what a healthy relationship between two adults could look like. I swear, there are days I think a salmon ready to spawn looks healthy compared to me after parenting these kids for 16 years. I am just done in.

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