One of the most valuable things my husband has learned (and subsequently passed on to me – cuz we can only afford for one of us to be crazy at a time) in therapy is being present. Recognizing feelings and situations for what they are now – not what they were and not what you're afraid they'll be but what everything is right now in this moment. Working on this skill (and it IS a learned skill) has helped both of us in our marriage, parenting, how we relate to the other, and in life in general.

I forget almost moment to moment but when I remember, I experience so much more peace…something I have struggled with my whole life. Peaceful is a quality I would NEVER attribute to myself.

I think part of this skill has to do with the discipline of thankfulness. It's cliche but true – counting your blessings does wonders. I'm not saying it will solve your problems or make the shitty stuff go away or cause the clouds to part and the sun to come out. But for a moment – maybe even just a few seconds, it does help.

So here's a little list for this moment. I am thankful for….
* the sunny, warm day after a string of dark clouds and spring snow
* a husband who loves everything about me and tells me all the time
* snuggles from my girls on the chair and a body that is healthy and strong enough to hold a VERY TALL 8 year old and almost 5 year old and squeeze the breath out of them
* a quick mind and useful skills (even if potential employers don't see it)
* lazy Sundays – the kids playing happily together, no theater rehearsals or shows for the husband, no job or chores for me
* my macbook, the internet and all the other things that make it possible for me to write this post and sustain fun and supportive virtual friendships

My life is often far from what I imagined it would be and the struggles are many but right now, right here, in this moment, I am thankful.

One thought on “thankful

  1. Thank you for sharing this. I needed that! Just because we can’t have what we want or what we think we should have, does not mean that what we have is inadequate.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s