My oldest daughter is truly a spectacular human being, it’s confirmed time and again. Shayel (grade 5) has been spending a lot of time recently with a boy in her class. He’s extremely smart, a bit awkward and because of this, he’s not really popular but Shayel enjoys his company and they have fun together. She doesn’t care what other people think about it even though she knows it’s not typically well accepted in grade 5 for a girl to be friends with a boy.
We had goal setting conferences recently and it was brought to our attention that some kids were making teasing comments about this – not directly to Shayel and her friend but to each other and Shayel heard about it. Apparently, Shayel brought this to the attention of the teacher and they had a class meeting about it – discussing why it’s not ok to tease people about their friend choices and why it’s perfectly fine for a girl to have a friend who is a boy.
I was thrilled to hear that Shayel wasn’t letting this effect her choice of friends and that her teacher addressed it so quickly and effectively.
Interestingly, David and I have been having frequent conversations about the nature of cross-gender friendships in the context of a hetero marriage.